Attachment Therapist
You’re the person everyone can count on — reliable, thoughtful, and steady. You show up, lead, and handle what needs to be done. But underneath that competence, you might feel emotionally exhausted, lonely, or unsure of how to connect.
Maybe you struggle to express your needs or feel uncomfortable relying on others. You might overanalyze every interaction, worry you’ve said the wrong thing, or find yourself in relationships that feel one-sided or draining.
You may tell yourself things like:
“I’m too much.”
“I’m not loveable.”
“If I let people get close, they’ll leave.”
If you relate to this, you’re not broken! You’re likely living with the effects of attachment wounds that formed long ago. These patterns are not your fault. They were survival strategies that helped you adapt to relationships and dynamics where emotional safety weren’t always available.
As a trauma-informed attachment therapist, I help high-functioning men and women reconnect with themselves and others through attachment healing therapy. So you can relearn how to build relationships that feel authentic, secure, and emotionally safe.
What Is Attachment Therapy?
Attachment therapy explores how early relationships and family dynamics shape the way you connect, trust, and communicate as an adult. When caregivers were inconsistent, critical, emotionally unavailable, or unsafe, your nervous system adapted to survive, often creating patterns like:
Avoidance (shutting down or appearing detached when emotions feel too close or overwhelming)
Anxiety (fearing rejection or abandonment)
Codependency (prioritizing others’ needs to maintain peace)
People-pleasing and self-criticism
Fear of losing control or making the wrong decision
Feeling stuck, trapped, or shut down in relationships
These behaviors are protective, not defective. They were your nervous system’s way of keeping you safe. Through attachment style therapy, we help your system learn new patterns of safety, trust, and connection.
My Approach to Working with Attachment Wounds
Attachment healing isn’t about forcing yourself to be more open or emotionally available. It’s about helping your nervous system feel safe enough to connect again.
I integrate several trauma-informed, evidence-based modalities to support you:
IFS Therapy for Trauma
Through Internal Family Systems (IFS), we identify and care for the inner “parts” of you that protect or hold pain. For example, one part might fear abandonment, while another strives for perfection to stay safe. By working to create emotional safety and working with curiosity, you can integrate these parts and lead from your calm, confident Self.
IFS therapy helps you:
Heal from abandonment fear and self-doubt
Reconnect with compassion and clarity
Create space for authentic relationships
Reduce overanalyzing, anxiety, and internal pressure
EMDR Therapy for CPTSD
EMDR therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) helps process old relational memories stored in your nervous system. When those memories no longer trigger panic, fear, or shame, you can approach relationships with new confidence and peace.
EMDR helps clients struggling with:
Complex trauma (CPTSD), betrayal trauma, workplace trauma
Fear of failure and fear of losing control
Feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, or emotional overwhelm
Embodied Therapy and Nervous System Healing
Attachment healing happens not just in the mind, but in the body. Through embodied therapy, you’ll learn to notice what safety feels like; how your body signals connection, fear, and trust. Over time, you’ll be able to regulate more easily, stay grounded in relationships, and connect without losing yourself.
This is the foundation of nervous system healing and true relational change.
FAQ’s
How do I know if I have an attachment issue?
If you struggle with closeness, avoid vulnerability, or often feel anxious or disconnected in relationships, you may be living with attachment disorder in adults. Therapy helps you understand your attachment style and create healthier patterns of connection.
What happens in an attachment therapy session?
In a typical attachment therapy session, we explore your relationship history, emotions, and body responses with curiosity and compassion. You’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system, express needs, and build secure, trusting relationships.
Can attachment therapy help with anxiety or trauma?
Yes. Attachment therapy is highly effective for those experiencing trauma, OCD, or anxiety rooted in early relational wounds. Integrating IFS therapy, EMDR, and embodied therapy supports deep healing and lasting sustainable change.
How much does it cost per session?
My rate for a 50 minute session is $250. I do offer a invoice if you would like to get reimbursed by your insurance. I also offer Thrizer as a secure payment platform for clients who wish to use out-of-network benefits or submit claims for reimbursement.
Healing attachment wounds is not about becoming someone new, it’s about remembering who you are underneath fear and self-protection.
Signs of Attachment Wounds in Adults
Even if you appear successful, attachment injuries can quietly shape your emotions and relationships. You might:
Feel helpless, hopeless, or unworthy of love
Struggle with fear of abandonment or rejection
Feel disconnected from your body or emotions
Experience perfectionism and burnout trying to earn approval
Have difficulty setting boundaries or asking for support
Experience intrusive thoughts or emotional shutdown during conflict
Feel a constant sense of impending doom or internalized pressure
Struggle with attachment disorder in adults, where closeness and independence feel equally unsafe
You deserve relationships — and an inner world — where connection feels safe, steady, and real.
How Attachment Therapy Works
In our attachment therapy sessions, we create a space of compassionate care and curiosity. You’ll learn how to recognize your patterns, understand where they come from, and begin to experience relationships differently — starting with yourself.
Therapy is never about blame; it’s about understanding. Together, we’ll explore:
Your attachment style (avoidant, anxious, disorganized, or secure)
How early dynamics shaped your current emotional patterns
The protective parts of you that manage or avoid connection
The underlying needs for safety, love, and belonging
Our work is rooted in helping you move from self-protection to self-trust, one step at a time.
Attachment Therapy for High Performers
Many of my clients are high-functioning professionals, leaders, and entrepreneurs who thrive in high-pressure roles. They manage teams, meet deadlines, and succeed but privately, they struggle with loneliness, anxiety, or disconnection.
You might resonate if you:
Feel like you have to earn love through achievement
Struggle with workplace trauma or overworking to avoid vulnerability
Feel shut down or emotionally distant in relationships
Crave connection but fear being hurt or misunderstood
As a therapist for career-driven professionals, I help you slow down, reconnect, and build relationships that nourish rather than drain you.
Attachment Therapy for Women in Perimenopause and Menopause
During hormonal transitions, many women experience emotional sensitivity, rage and irritability, and resurfacing attachment wounds. You might feel disconnected, anxious, or trapped in old relational dynamics.
Attachment therapy offers support to help you regulate emotions, reconnect with your mind and your body, and embrace this new life stage with authenticity and self-compassion.
What Healing Can Look Like
Healing attachment wounds doesn’t happen by willpower, it happens through creating internal safety and presence.
With time, you’ll notice:
More emotional balance and inner calm
Healthier boundaries and communication
Greater confidence in love and connection
A deeper sense of safety in your own body
Freedom from anxiety and constant overthinking
Through attachment therapy, you’ll learn what it feels like to feel securely connected not only to yourself but in your relationships as well.
You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
You’ve worked so hard to hold everything together. Now, you can let someone hold space for you.
Healing your attachment patterns can bring peace, self-trust, and the authentic connection you’ve been craving.
Schedule your free consultation to explore how attachment therapy sessions can help you feel grounded, connected, and free from old patterns.
Ready to begin your healing journey? Contact me here to start attachment therapy in Colorado or California and rediscover safety in connection.
